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Pastoral Pearls: What we can never lose ...

Posted by MaryPat Potts on

What we once enjoyed and deeply loved we can never lose, For all that we love deeply becomes a part of us. ~ Helen Keller

I love this sentiment. Why does grief hurt so much? Because I loved so deeply. What a gift that is, to have loved so deeply that it feels like a part of me has been ripped away. It makes me want to hold onto a person so tightly, because I don’t want to lose that miracle of such true love. I want to keep enjoying my loved one forever.  I have often heard people deeply in love say, “You can’t die first, it has to be me, so I don’t have to live without you.” We know a good thing when we have it, and the love that causes deep grief is truly a gift from God, that we can never lose.

But it’s hard to see past the hurt to acknowledge that blessing. It takes time – however much is needed. The people I loved whom I have lost stay with me, and return to tickle my memories from time to time, teasing out a smile from me, however reluctant. And that is as it should be. If my loved one has truly “become part of me,” as wise Helen Keller believes, I can reassure myself that I never need to get over the losing of their life-giving Spirit. I can be comforted in knowing and feeling them right there inside me – hearing their words in my head, seeing a beloved facial expression in my mind’s eye, almost feeling a loving caress that I remember so well. 

When All Saints and All Souls Days roll around, we have an opportunity to honor and remember the loved ones who have passed away. I invite you to attend one of our All Saint’ / All Souls’ Day Masses, November 1 and November 2, where we will try to honor our deceased loved ones in a special way. It can be truly soothing to the soul.

Loving God, thank you for the gift of the time I had to spend with _______,

who was so close to me and whom I still mourn.

Thank you for all the ways this person is still with me – part of me -

and help me to be able to feel and recognize their presence.

Walk with me as I travel my journey of grief from heartbreak to heartache

to recognition that this person so loved, is not lost to me, but part of me. 



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